if you do that, you ARE counting everything twice. Your "username" folder includes music, documents, movies, library, etc... If you add-up everything in THAT column, you will see it's about 45.5GB, which is what is listed under your username in places.
So what you're probably wondering is if your user folder is only 45GB, what is taking up the rest of the space? To check this you need to open up your root directory (the first-level of your HD). There you will find something like this:
obviously yours will look a little different, but you should still see that your Applications, Library, and System folders will also take up quite a bit of space.