I just need to get something out

[Youngbinks]

I always know that my EIC family will be there to listen whenever a member has something to say and I just wanted to talk about something with you guys.

Yesterday evening two of my best friends were working on my friend Kyle's car installing a sway bar (to help steering and such) at my friend Jeremy's house. They got the sway bar installed and went to test it out and make sure it was working. At about 5:30 in the evening Kyle was coming around a turn, going the speed limit, and somehow lost control of the vehicle. His car spun around into oncoming traffic and a truck hit Jeremy's door going about 45 mph. Jeremy was taken from us instantly and Kyle was rushed to the emergency room in critical condition. He's in stable condition now. I just left the hospital with him and he has suffered severe head trauma and has fractured his back and pelvis but right now they're focusing on his head, but they're pretty sure he's going to make it.

I've known both of these guys for years. I've been Kyle's best friend since 8th grade and Jeremy's since 10th. Kyle, Jeremy and I lived together freshman year and I've lived with Jeremy all 3 years now.

Their families are holding up as well as they can but I can't even imagine what they're going through. I can only ask that you all keep Kyle and Jeremy in your prayers and thoughts as well as their families in these troubling times.

Thank you guys so much for taking the time to listen and I just want to ask you all to be careful and be thankful for what you have.

I'm probably going to be pretty absent around here the next couple of days but I'll try and check back in as much as possible. Thanks again.

[Saverino]

OMG! Thats so sad! Im very sorry and I hope you, and their families are going to be okay. My prayers go out to them.

[OJsakila]

I am so sorry to hear this. I will pray for your friend and cannot attempt to say anything that will make this any easier for you. All jokes aside, I am truely sorry for you and your friend and all families involved.

[Hayesimus]

Very sorry to hear that. But very glad at the same time that you weren't in the vehicle. I don't know what I'd do if I lost a close friend. Its a loss that can't be put into words effectively. It will take time to heal the wound. The only advice I can offer is that as long as you remember all the good times you had, then he will live on in your memory. A friend as close as this undoubtedly knew exactly how much he meant to you, so try not to think about regrets or things you wished you said. Just focus on the positive times. I hope your other friend makes as complete a recovery as possible. We at the EIC are here for you and an I know we are all thinking of you.

[Alexander]

Philly, you already know how upset I was to hear this. Sometimes it's hard for me to understand why tragedies like this ever have to happen to anyone. I don't know what to say in a time like this - but I do know Jeremy was fortunate to have a friend as good as you are up until he was taken.

I'm praying for Kyle, and may Jeremy rest in peace.

[Buffy]

Phil, this is terrible and I cannot imagine what you and all your families must be going through. There is something so shocking and heartbreaking about the death of someone on the cusp of really living life. I will be praying for the families, for comfort and that the pain will be blunted somewhat and that healing begins quickly. I don't believe a parent ever fully recovers from losing a child, but I do pray that the sharpest edge will be taken off that grief. You can also be an excellent spokesperson in the future among your peers. Take good care of yourself and of Kyle, who is no doubt going through a personal hell of his own right now. :frown:

[psylichon]

I just want to ask you all to be careful and be thankful for what you have.

My thanks is for this point.... which is often the only good that can taken from situations such as these. Reminders...

I'm so sorry for you man. Thanks for keeping in touch with the fold... please continue to do so!

[acosmichippo]

sorry, man. positive vibes are being sent to florida.

[iCafe]

i am really sorry to hear about this tragedy
life is so precious and goes by so quickly
you are probably in a state of shock
as i know i would be if i lost my best friend
i will pray for them and their families
I believe Jeremy is in a better place now and you guys
will meet again when you get to heaven
keep the faith

[Luckykelleyk]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is always important to remember how precious and fragile life is....

[connie]

I am so sorry. I will pray for you, your friends, their families. Life can be so awful sometimes, and with no explanation of why. All we can do is pray. It's so true we have to appreciate and live every single moment of life like it's our last.

[patrickj]

Wow I'm so sorry - for you, for the families, for your still struggling friend.

There are no words that help with this sort of thing. You always strike me as a very strong and caring and excellent person Binks - I feel sure you'll be a pillar through all of this, and hope you will find some solace and support along the way as well ...

[projectdarkside]

Wow man. . .I dont know how I would react if that were to ever happen me :(
-I admire how calm you are about this :), I'll pray for you and your bro's.

[Lincoln]

I'm very sorry to hear this, Phil. I will keep your friends and their families in my prayers. See you around in a few days.

- John

[macgirl]

I'm so sorry to hear about this tragedy! You and your friends and their families are in my thoughts...

[up10ad]

Phil, please take some solace in knowing that your friends here are thinking of you, and praying for your loved ones.

[aggieman]

Binks, I'm so sorry to hear about your tragic loss. My condolences to you and the families involved. I will make sure to keep you guys in my prayers. Stay strong.

[dcom]

Sorry to hear about this, the thoughts of many are with you and your friends' families.

[powersrus]

So sorry to hear bout this...my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your friends and family.

[Steveo 90]

very sorry to hear about this.........wow it just sucks


i lost my best friend at what seems to be right around the same age you are so i do understand,life isnt fair sometimes.......again i am sorry

[projectdarkside]

Why do the worst things happen to best people :(

[Alexander]

Why do the worst things happen to best people :(

That is so, so, true.

[kokogirl]

Phil,

I am so sorry for your loss. I am sad for you and your friends families. I will keep you in my thoughts and hope that you all can find the strength to go on through your sadness. You are right that this is a reminder to us all to be thankful for each moment we have will our friends and families.

[Ramesh]

Phil -

I am so sorry for you loss. You are in my prayers, as well as your family and your friends' families.

[Hondamaker]

Man, that's rough. My deepest sympathies. Another reason why I try to live each day like it's my last, tell my kids I love them each day, hug them and my wife each day, cause one day it will be the last for one of us, and I try to leave no doubt as to my love for my family and friends.

[projectdarkside]

I dont know if its a guy thing or that I'm too young? . . .
-But I find it hard to say "I love you", ya kno like just saying when leaving to go somewhere to my parents or someone :( Like whenever I say it to actually mean it I feel like somethings bad gonna happen :(

[psylichon]

Just start saying it no matter how dorky it makes you feel. Eventually you'll be known as the guy that loves everyone so it won't be awkward anymore, and who could hate on a guy like that. You'll get the love back. That's how it works.

[coasts]

I love you, Dave.

[projectdarkside]

I Lu...Lu. . .I like you Dave :)

[Ramesh]

Hey Guys - not normal "police" but have some respect in this thread. If you guys wanna do that, start your own, or pm each other. Have some respect for Phil.

[coasts]

Hey Guys - not normal "police" but have some respect in this thread. If you guys wanna do that, start your own, or pm each other. Have some respect for Phil.

you're right. my apologies. hopefully the spreading of love made it down to Gainesville.

[projectdarkside]

My bad bro :(
-sorry phil :embarrased:

[psylichon]

Somehow I think Phil will forgive you guys :D

Nothing but love.

[coasts]

Somehow I think Phil will forgive you guys :D

Nothing but love.

you started it :p

[Hayesimus]

has binks been on since he started this thread?

[Buffy]

His profile says he was here this afternoon.

[Ramesh]

Been prayin' for him... I hope he's doing ok...

[Youngbinks]

Hey everyone, I've been kind of checking in a little bit lately but your thoughts and prayers have been extremely appreciated.

Kyle had a really rough night last night and developed pneumonia which caused liquid to form around his lungs. Earlier this afternoon they weren't able to get enough oxygen or blood to his brain and his parents were faced with the hardest decision of their lives and decided to take him off of life support because his quality of life would never have been the same. He donated his organs and he passed at around 2 PM this afternoon.

I know that Kyle is in a much better place right now and I know that he would never have wanted to be confined to a bed for the rest of his life. He left behind some of the most amazing parents one could ask for and one of the most loving sisters as well.

Jeremy's services were last week and Kyle's are going to be later this week so I just ask that you guys continue to pray for their families as they try and get through this difficult time.

Thank you guys for everything you've said and done. I love you all.

[projectdarkside]

Wow Man! My Eye's Are Seriously Tearing Up :( . . .

[Hayesimus]

that is just awful. I'm so sorry. I hope things start looking up in some way soon. Really makes me value my peeps.

[dcom]

You can take comfort that he was able to help someone else by donating his organs. More thoughts and prayers are going out to you and your friend's families.

[Ramesh]

Phil, I'm very sorry to hear that. My deepest condolences. We'll be praying for you guys..

[dichertz]

Phil

Sometimes in life situations present themselves that we, as human beings, simply cannot comprehend.

As much as we try, nothing makes sense and most likely never will.
All one can do is take the situation, process it as well as one can and allow it to become part of ourselves.

It is not good, and will never be, but it is a measure of YOU in how you deal with it.
If it were YOU, Phil, how would you want YOUR friends to react to the loss?

I wish you strength and courage.

Dana

[aggieman]

Phil,

Wow, I read your post and my heart just sank.

I have never had to go through anything like that so I cannot begin to understand what is going through your mind right now. I know that words can't really make anything feel better now and I really can't say anything that any of the other guys haven't already said, so I'll just let you know that you are in my thoughts. Stay strong.

Jason

[kokogirl]

Phil,

I am so sorry. I wish that I had something I could say to ease your pain.