my best friend is clueless

[Hayesimus]

he's going out with this girl that treats him awfully, uses him, and makes him feel guilty for stuff. And I hate seeing it. But I can't very well tell him that. He's talking to me about it just to tell someone aloud. And when its done, hell be right back with her waiting to feel like crap. I know how it is. I've been there. But he deserves better. Now thats as off topic as can be, huh? Sorry, even i had to vent. Lol

[patrickj]

Sadly, you tend to see that kinda ****e a lot of the time.
I had a buddy in the UK who went out with the same girl 4 different times after breakups and realizing she was not for him, treated him bad, cheated on him etc. Had a happy ending though - he took her out for a romantic Valentines Day dinner, drank a ton of wine at the restaurant, and - not even really intentionally - told her drunkenly that he did not have the slightest clue why he was going out with her again, as he really didn't like her at all. They stayed broken up after that one :smile:

[Hayesimus]

I wish that would happen for his sake. BUT they have a kid together and you know how that goes. Shes a leach

[patrickj]

I wish that would happen for his sake. BUT they have a kid together and you know how that goes. Shes a leach

Ouch, that's a whole different ballgame - much harder. Luckily my pal had no real ties with the girl in question. And funnily enough, after his drunken burst of honesty, he ended up finding a great girl, ended up marrying her, they're real happy ...

[Hayesimus]

that's what I wish would happen! I just want him to find someone that will truly make him happy. But yeah its prob not gonna happen any time soon so i will continue to worry bout him i suppose. Hey look! I levelled up! Yay for me.

[iamtko]

condoms solve this problem.
or abstinence.

No but on a more serious note, sometimes it takes a while to see past a persons mask.

Hopefully he wises up

[Lincoln]

Unfortuatly, sometimes this kind of thing has to happen before you can really see what you're into. I'm sure he'll be with somebody that's much better for him sooner or later.

I've been dating my girlfriend for two and a half years now; we have an outstanding relationship. But it took me quite a few wrong turns to get there.

- John

[Hayesimus]

a few wrong turns with her? Or do you mean a few bad relationships before you found her?

[Lincoln]

a few wrong turns with her? Or do you mean a few bad relationships before you found her?

Before her. I had a few stinkers back in 9th grade.

I shudder at those memories...

- John

[Hayesimus]

haha. Well yeah but he's living with her. Maybe if he only had to see her in study hall it would be easier to make the break. LOL!

[Lincoln]

My uncle was in this exact situation; at 45.

He wantedmto leave the woman, but loved the kid so much he just couldn't do it. Eventually, he had had enough, and just left with his daughter. He hasn't seen the woman since and is married to a great woman who supports the whole family.

Best of luck to your friend.

- John

[Hayesimus]

Thanks yeah he needs it.